The “Me” Disease

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The “me” mentality is a disease. It’s the belief that you are an island in this world. The thought, (or lack of thinking for that matter), that the world revolves around you and that by simply wanting something to come true it should happen for you. The problem is that few are willing to admit that they are selfish and self-absorbed, whether it be for a moment or a lifetime.

I am getting older, and beginning to see how selfish people are in this world. I am not a cynic and always strive to see the best in all people, but there are so many people I see that are swimming in a sea of their own self-pity that they can’t even come up for air long enough to see that the people around them are growing tired of constantly having to raise up their spirits. These “me” people are so selfish, only thinking of themselves. I am beginning to distance myself from these type of personalities and focus my energy on those that are worth my while.

These “me” people rarely are interested in how others around them are doing. These “me” people are those people who have a sense of entitlement for all the good in life just for breathing. There is no work involved to achieve their desires and expect things to be handed to them. There are also those that do work hard for things and still do not get all they want so they give up and blame everyone but themselves.

A few signs of a “me” mentality:

If your job isn’t going right and you find yourself blaming other people, you are a “me” person.

If you can’t lose weight and you are blaming outside influences that are “making” you fat, then you are a “me” person.

If you can’t find the right guy because they are all the same, you are a “me” person.

If everything around you feels like it is working against you then you too are a “me” person.

The good news: There is a known cure for the “me” disease! First, let’s look at the one consistent word and person in every bad and unsatisfactory outcome in your life. It is “you” (aka me). Yes, that’s right, sit back and take a look at yourself and see that in each element of your life, you are the only thing that stays consistent, therefore you are the only thing that has the power to change. You can change your outlook and attitude on your life but most importantly, you can change your approach when it comes to doing things and your ways with dealing with other people. Too often we expect other people to change and this feeds into the “me” way of thinking. We are all guilty of it, some more often than others and some more extreme than others.

The best cure is to start listening to other people, change your approach to all things that haven’t worked in the past. If you can’t come up with new approaches then ask people, go on the internet for support and ideas, ask a mentor or an honest friend about your weaknesses and come up with ways of overcoming these obstacles.

I am not perfect, I don’t claim to be and if I feel myself asking “why isn’t this working? I have tried everything. It’s not me, it’s them.” I take a hard look at myself and change my behaviors because in my 30 years on this earth, I have realized that “me” is the only thing I have the power to change. I have no control over other people’s behaviors and it is in my approach and thinking that will change the outcome of the events in my life.

Sometimes, trying an old approach and old way of doing things ceases to work because circumstances change, as do people and therefore constantly relying on the same approaches every time are less likely to have a favorable outcome.

Einstein’s definition of Insanity: “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”.

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5 thoughts on “The “Me” Disease

  1. It drives me crazy when people are so self absorbed in their own life they don’t think about anyone else. Everything in this world is so connected, every human being, every animal, every single organism. When we only think and care about ourselves or our own family, we put up walls and barriers between our own circles and other people. For example, not being concerned about the monsoons in Pakistan that have taken thousands of lives because, “it does not have anything to do with my life in San Francisco” or wherever you live. Actually it does. It has everything to do with it. The “me” people you spoke of reminded me of this, probably because I’m a sociology student and my mind races at night, wondering how it is some can just turn away when they see a homeless man or be so quick to judge a single mother on welfare.

    Unfortunately, this is the way we as Americans are socialized. We are told our whole lives to be independent in everything we do. If we do not succeed by the standards set up by our society (marriage by 30, 2 children, two cars, job with health insurance, house, etc, etc) then it is our fault. If we do succeed then we have done this all on our own, exactly as we should have. This independent mentality pushes the idea of every man for himself and survival of the fittest. In this mindset, theoretically, we should not care about our neighbor who struggles to feed their children, because it is not our problem. “We should only be concerned with feeding our own family. It is the fault of the parents if their children go hungry, they are bad parents.” What about the fact that food prices GLOBALLY are increasing, or that 11% of Californian’s are unemployed?

    This type of thinking truly scares me. It may sound childish but living in this American Independent fashion takes “love” out of the equation. Love for our brothers and sisters, our neighbors down the street or across the country. It hurts me that as a society we don’t seem to value human life highly or even equally. Shouldn’t we make sure families have health care and a roof over their heads? Isn’t it our duty?

  2. It is always irritating when ou are talking to someoneand all they focus onis the next words coming out of their mouth. Dont get me wrongwe all can do this At Times but when it is all the time is when there is a problem
    Oh and P.S the world is not out to get you!! You are out to get yourself – by focusing on the negative

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