Think of the worst thing that has ever happened to you. Think of the time when you had almost lost hope, questioned your faith and felt completely helpless and alone. Think of how that situation turned out. In the end, did everything work itself out? Did the situation still end poorly, but you got new perspective on life? Now think of the struggles you are going through in your life right now. Go ahead, write down or analyze in your head the worst case scenario of the most horrible outcome. Face it. Now let it go. Even if you are not a believer in God, you can still have faith in how the “universe” works things out for us. If you made it through those tough times, then why would this time be any different? Think of this situation as having already worked itself out and write down what your future self would advise your current self. Would you tell yourself to keep faith? To change your attitude and perspective? Try a different approach? Now take that advice!
When we face life’s disappointments, they are not easy bumps to get over in the road. It is going to take strong will, courage and a decision to move on. Do not get trapped in the past and allow it to ruin your future. Stop thinking ” why me?” and start thing ” why not me?”
I had a rough 2008 and 2009 where the world as I knew it felt to be crumbling slowly around me. I did not lose faith, but I questioned it and would ask God over and over again “why he was testing my family. Why he was doing this to me. Why he was testing the strength of my sister’s poor body”, but God did not answer in words. I held on to my faith that things would work themselves out. He answered me quietly, through the little and big things that happened in our lives because of these unfortunate incidents and situations. I learned a lot about myself, I aged another 20 years within those 2 long years. I am a stronger person for having gone through all that mental and emotional anguish. I thought of the worst case scenarios and in one case it was literally life or death. I thought about that for months and was very angry that I couldn’t save my sister’s life, whom I had protected all of my life. I felt like I was being punished. I came to a simple conclusion: there are no answers in life and death. These things are beyond our control. We are mere humans that cannot begin to understand the complexities on the universe and of heaven. In the other bad situation I was faced with, I realized that it was merely financial and that in the end, money is insignificant as long as I had the essentials. During this time, I found out I was pregnant with my son and even though I was going to through an extremely stressful time, I realized that if God had blessed us with this tiny being in my womb, that life surely would go on. At the end of this period, my sister came through, my other situation worked itself out and I had an angel in my arms in the form of my son.
It started with changing my perspective on life in general, as a whole and eventually I decided that it was a decision I was going to make to be positive and happy. Yes, a decision. Now, this didn’t happen automatically, I didn’t literally wake up one day and say, ” I accept life as it comes and I am happy about it!!” I woke up and said instead,” I know it is going to be hard, I know that I may be disappointed at times with how my life is panning out, but I refuse to let it get the best of me. I am going to be happy.”
Remember that even if you do not see your value, God does. You must also see it and see your potential. Nothing is ever as bad as it seems, and it is only worse with the attitude you decide to have on your life and circumstances. Hold your head up as high as you can when you are feeling down and remember that you are loved, and you have a purpose on this world. Your dreams may not have turned out for you, but the fact that you are still breathing means that you can keep on dreaming new dreams. No matter what life throws at you, no matter how much you suffer, you have value so do not ever give up on yourself! You have got to be your own best friend, your number one supporter and your number one fan! Do not lose faith!
Now, I ask you this again: if God (or whatever it is you believe in) got you through that dark place you once found yourself in, why would He leave you now?