‘The best way to predict the future is to create it.”
If you are sitting around waiting for life to come and find you like a game of hide-and-go-seek, then you may be waiting a long time. Life is full of unpredictable moments, but without setting goals and creating your own destiny, then you are merely waiting around for life to come to you. I do believe in destiny, however, in order to get to that place you are supposed to be at , you have to put in some effort. You create your today, tomorrow and future by your attitude and what you choose to accomplish. Setting realistic expectations and goals for yourself is the most important difference between making your destiny and waiting for it to create itself. I don’t know many people who don’t enjoy having control over their lives.
First of all remember to take baby steps. I love the story of the tortoise and the hare because I too always take my time when accomplishing large tasks to ensure I do every step correctly and am learning things along the way. This is just what works for me and I am always happy in the fact the although it took me longer to get to the finish line than the hare, I still came in first place because the hare was too cocky and underestimated my abilities.
So, you’ve taken your baby steps and now it’s time to set some relevent and realistic goals. If you say, ” I want to lose 50 pounds”, but do not take into consideration your time, your energy and workout level and how long it would really take you to lose the weight, you may end up failing and feeling worse about yourself in the end. If you say, “I want to save $1,000”, but do not cut back on your spending habits then you are setting yourself up for failure. A realistic goal is one that you can achieve within your means and flexibility of your lifestyle. A relevent goal is one that will actually enhance your life not a goal that is set to satisfy someone else .
After you have set realistic and relevent goals, the next step is to visualize your goal as already being attained. Without seeing yourself as your gaol, you are working towards a blind goal. If it is weight loss, then visualize yourself thinner, or better yet, visualize yourself being healthier and more energetic . Think of yourself attaining your goal and how proud you will feel once you’ve achieved it.
Remember this, the main difference between those who create their destiny, and those who wait for it to happen, is found in their personal level of determination. If you are not one of these people (yet) then do not worry it is common to start of on the quest for your goal feeling somewhat inadequate. If you start off with a bang and later feel your energy and enthusiasm dwindling then hit the “restart” button and do baby steps once again. Imagine if you never got back on your bike as a child when you fell off the first time? What if you gave up the first time you tied your shoes? The first time you learned how to drive a car?
Over time, as you begin to have small successes,your commitment to your goal will begin to grow. After working longer towards your goal, you will find your determination to complete it deepen to the point that you will become one of “those” people who refuse to allow any obstacle get in the way of them getting what they want. Your confidence will build in yourself and you will be a happier person.
My best advice is surround yourself with positive people, especially in the areas you want to be succesful in your life. Let go of your negative inner voice that tells you “can’t”, in fact erase can’t from your vocabulary and only think of can. Find a mentor that exhibits those positive characteristics that you desire to posses within yourself.
We create our own destiny. Do not hold your breath waiting for it to find you or you may find yourself falling over from lack of oxygen.