My favorite teacher from college posted this quote on Facebook a while back and it inspired this very post:
‘”People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they are not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.” – H. Jackson Browne
Happiness is in the eye of the beholder. We easily judge other people’s choices that they have made in their life and question their level of happiness. Conversations about other people’s lives and choices often lead to the topic of happiness. We can sometimes be quick to judge other people’s ideas of happiness and put down their life choices. It’s human nature to judge, sometimes unknowingly, based on our own ideas of happiness. It makes sense, in fact, to base your knowledge of happiness on your own experiences. Everyone has their own paths that they choose to take in their lives and within those paths each person has different human experiences.
There is the “common path” that society, our families or our cultures will pound into our brains. We are all “programmed” to be a certain way and to lead a certain life, it is the bravest of us that decide to take the road that best suits us in the end. This road may not be the most unique in the world, as far as roads go, it may not be the most adventurous either, but it is OUR road to take, our life to experience.
We give other people advice or criticism about their live based on our own ideals while rarely taking into consideration this other person’s perspective on life. Next time you hear someone talking about their life and talking about how happy they are, take into consideration their perspective on life and what makes that particular person happy. Don’t be too quick to judge. Be open-minded. Root for happiness in all its different forms and begin to understand the different types of happy that exist in this world.
To each his own. The best advice I ever received as a young girl. It is normal to compare our lives against those around us, but in the end we should not judge our happiness based on what makes other people happy.